Unschooled: how one kid Is grateful he stayed home
Unschooling is like home schooling, except entirely self-directed, with lots of support from my parents. When I got my first allowance of $2.50 a week, I remember calculating how long I'd have to save up to buy my next toy. Everything I've ever learned has been for a practical purpose or because I was interested, never for a test or because someone made me.
My 12-year-old brother, Nicky, has also been unschooled his whole life. He's pretty shy; he likes reading fantasy books and watching South Park. Before last year, he wasn't comfortable with groups of kids. My mom will occasionally suggest activities, like going to the botanical garden, but Nicky will usually shoot them down with an immediate "no." He's bored a lot because he's in between interests, and yet he's nervous about trying new things.
I had a similar problem when I was his age. It's part of growing up unschooled. We don't have as much pressure from school and friends telling us what to like, so it's our responsibility to figure out how to spend our time.
My grandpa Glenn Fuller is one of the people in my family who had concerns about unschooling. "I didn't think it was a good idea," he says. "One of the reasons I was worried is that I was afraid your education might be a little spotty. The other thing is the social aspect of the thing. For example, you couldn't take part in team sports."
Not having a social life is a big misconception about unschoolers. In our world, the idea that we are shut-ins who barely see the light of day is kind of a joke. Unschooled kids have their own networks and conferences. We go on camping trips and we hang out with friends whenever we want. And the truth is, my grandpa's right; my education is spotty. Up until a year ago, I could barely spell. It was my own fault, because I was reluctant to take on the daunting task. Most parents would have intervened in this situation, but my mom says there's a cost to that. "When you force someone to do something, especially when they're a child and there's an imbalance and a power relationship anyway, they lose part of their will and their confidence that they know what's right for them," she says. "And I think that's a pretty high cost for being a good speller."
A few months ago my mom bought a book and we started working on my spelling. And I've also enrolled in my first community college class, with the plan of transferring my credits to a four-year college. And although I acknowledge that school does work for some people, I'm incredibly grateful my parents decided to unschool me.
Sam Fuller